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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What about saying "I only want to date white/black/hispanic/indian people bc they are just like me?" Its not that you have an issue with people of the other race or even an attraction, its just that you prefer to date people who are of similar backgrounds/looks/cultures.[/quote]

However, a person of your same race doesn't necessarily have the same background and culture as you. Class had a huge impact on how you grow up and what values you develop. T[b]he reason many college educated minorities marry out is that they want someone who is seen as intellectually and economically their equal.[/b] I have no issue with someone who says I want to prioritize a partner having an advanced degree over saying I want a particular skin color or language.[/quote]

I object to this premise. You seem to suggest that college educated minorities are hard to come by. Is that what you're saying? [/quote]
Yes, sadly, this is still the case in many areas beyond the DMV bubble. When you travel to small towns in the South and Midwest, college attendance for everyone drops, but especially for non-whites. [/quote]

Yes, but are there really any minorities in small town America? [/quote]

Much of the South. I worked in public health in 3 states in the Deep South. My coworkers with Batchelor's (or higher)were usually whites of both sexes and black females. The Latinos and black males almost always had no college or a 2 year degree. I thought it was just a fluke for the field. As I socialized with more people though, I saw it was a broader pattern. 
My cousins who live in the Midwest report the same phenomenon. I don't date exclusively in my race, but I do require a partner to be educated and gainfully employed. A friend who is AA is marrying a white guy who is in a trade. Her parents flipped because he doesn't have a degree. He insists that it's racism, but her entire family going back to the Reconstruction era has been college educated. [/quote]

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