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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP-- I asked for advice, not to be berated.  He has his good qualities, but he doesn't seem to get it that he needs to pull a bit more weight.  Right now, the burden is falling on me.  I'm the one who budgets, I'm the one who packs the lucnhes,plans the meals, scrounges on ebay for items instead of buying from the store...

I'm looking for ways to show him that we need that extra security.  [/quote]

I get what you're saying OP, but have you ever asked him what is holding him back from looking for a higher paying job?  It seems worth exploring that.  Are the jobs few and far between?  Is he ready to deal with any added stress?  Does he think he's not qualified/incapable of doing that job?

Instead of getting angry at him about the fact that he's not doing what you want, or the fact that you don't seem to think he doesn't care, find out WHY he's not putting in the effort.

This is all about communication on both your parts .  He needs to openly talk to you and you need to be able to talk/listen without getting angry or acting resentful.  I agree with a PP that a 3rd party would really be able to help you with this issue. 
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