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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am in this situation and married a really great guy who understands but is still very very close with his family. My life was terrible for the first five years and I cried every night because my husband didn't know how to handle the situation. He either didn't hear how offensive his mother is or has gotten use to his brother and his family so he doesn't see the same thing I saw or heard. His family blames me all the time. They even ganged up on me from time to time. It got really hard to the point that we were going to divorce, although it wasn't him, he refused or saw no reason to move further. Now we have children and my kids get rude and offensive behavior from their cousins (brother in law's dc). My suggestion is if you don't have thick skin, please don't marry him. Trust me I have really really thick skin and it was a nightmare. Now, I just don't say anything around them and hope they don't acknowledge me. I get very very anxious when I have to see my in-laws and eat a bucketful of ice cream after my visit. I also think about the time spent with them the next couple of days and wished I was around different ppl I liked iwth my time. The resentment also builds towards my husband.[/quote]

PP here, in case you are wondering, he is on my side and he sees how dysfunctional his family is. I stopped getting so upset since his support. Jsut the other day his mother let herself into our house without calling me while I was at home with my dc. My husband told me that he'll talk to her. I told him forget it since she'll take things out on me we'll just change the garage code again (we gave it to her for an important reason). But I am secretly hoping that I have the courage to hit her with a baseball bat the next time she comes in without calling or knocking becasue I think it's an intruder. I am a very sweet person otherwise, it's his family that gets under my skin. So if your sister finds herself having to be a different person than she is, it's time to walk.[/quote]

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