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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is far too much responsibility to burden a young adult with who has yet to achieve a graduate degree, let alone secure his first job and establish a household with a partner. He means well but cannot possibly fathom what his role as a guardian would require.  I say this as someone in their fifties who had to assume guardianship over two elementary-aged relatives due to the sudden demise of their parents. I have an attorney, accountant, and a stable marriage, grown kids and my own experience in navigating life and running a household to fall back on. Even so, the logistical and emotional challenges are staggering.  Keep Grandma as the guardian. [/quote]

Fuck off. You don't have to have a graduate degree, a partner, a white picket fence, and a career to raise kids. You especially don't need tones things when the kids come with the funding they will need. You can meet all of your requirements and have no sense about raising kids. It's a learning process. I'd feel more comfortable having someone young rising my kids who is aware of modern norms than a grandparent who is head strong, thinks they're better than every young parent, and is likely to die before the children even make it to adulthood. [/quote]

You have no idea what you are talking about. I am considering the son's best interest. You obviously have a huge chip on your shoulder. [/quote]

Not PP, but... the son is old enough to start making these decisions for himself. Your response is very patronizing.  I understand PP's hostility. [/quote]

OP is a parent and I was providing a point of view of someone actually going through the situation.  Just because someone is designated as a guardian in a will does not mean that person will automatically become the guardian of minor children. The court will decide what is in the children's best interest.  The son will have to convince the court that he can provide a proper home for the children including attending to their medical, educational and social needs.  The guardian will need to spend a lot of his time dealing with bureaucracy, not to mention actually caring for the children's needs directly. He will need to attend medical, therapy, and school appointments as a parent would. When would he find the time to complete his degree, find a position that would accommodate frequent and last-minute appointments, and have any kind of social life that a person of his age should have?  Perhaps I am looking at this from more of a parent's perspective but OP is a parent. 
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