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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom died 20 years ago and my dad just recently passed away.  He was a hard working man who accumulated a modest wealth through years of blood, sweat, and tears.  He lived in a 1200 sq ft house (where he raised 4 kids), drove a 14 years old volvo and really instilled the value of a dollar in all of us.  I am the only girl and have 3 older brothers.  We were assuming the estate would be split 4 ways but its actually split in a completely different manner.  One half of his estate goes to a very specific organization that had a very important role in my parents lives (about 900k) and the rest is divided 6 ways evenly to each grandchild (about 150k each grandchild) for college/job training/graduate school. Even though his will specifically says its for the grandkids 2 of my siblings took that money and spent it.  One used it as a house downpayment and one used it to fund a new business get up.  They both claim they will just replace the money when its time for kids to go to college.  I am hurt and upset and feel like they are ignoring dads plan.  DH is admit I keep quite and never bring it up and I know he is right but I can't get it off my mind!  One of my siblings is especially bitter he didn't get a bigger share of the pie (only has one child) and wonders if the organization pressured him to give them money which is definitely NOT the case and I worry about him running his mouth and tainting the reputation of this organization.  Has anyone experienced a completely different side of their siblings after the last parent dies?  Im just really hurt and confused because I would of never guessed this behavior from them! Vent over, any advice greatly appreciated!

PS: I should state we are all done having children and have been for years and my Dad knew this so its not like possible future unborn grandchildren were left nothing. [/quote]

1,800,000 total after all is said and done to be distributed as the estate.   I assume that includes the sale of the house, contents, and 14 year old volvo.  Unless a sib and family were living with him in the house [ or nearby and handling care etc or a sib is disabled ]I would assume the estate would be :
450,000 to each.

Does any sibling have 3 kids since that results in 450?  And is that sibling closest geographically to the GP and have any involvement with the organization?  Since OP is little sister and the brothers are older there might have been more going on than she knew.  Just the math results.
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