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[quote=Anonymous]A variety of surveys over time have reported the proportion of married men who cheat at around 20% and the rate for women has been approaching men's, especially among younger people (there's still a higher rate for men among older people). So no, I don't think there's any reliable support for the assertion that "most" married men cheat.

The notion that men crave the "strange" and variety more than women is losing ground, and recent research suggests that women have a harder time maintaining interest in monogamous relationships than men do. In other words, women's libido is more vulnerable to the boredom of monogamy; it's possible that women actually need the "strange" more than men do, we've just been conditioned and socialized against it.

"The theory most often mentioned across disciplines is that women, like men, are inclined to promiscuity. This notion is so far supported by animal studies and long-range surveys of women, which have found that low levels of sex drive are correlated with the number of years they’ve been in a monogamous relationship; women’s sexual interest in steady partners may plummet even more quickly than men’s. This view is corroborated in the book by couples therapists who specialize in trying to help women regain sexual interest in their partners through thought experiments and mandatory date nights. They are notably pessimistic about how much heat all this homework can be expected to generate. The crucial point, Bergner writes, is that flagging sex drive is not just an inevitability for women — it is specifically the result of long-term monogamy. Even the hormonal decrease of menopause can be entirely overridden by the appearance of a new sexual partner. According to Bergner, Kim Wallen, the psychologist who discovered the role of cages in monkey sex, “thought that monogamy was, for women, a cultural cage — one of many cultural cages — distorting libido.”"
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/06/16/books/review/what-do-women-want-by-daniel-bergner.html?_r=0

Whether men are still more prone than women to act on it by actually cheating is also, as mentioned above, getting more questionable:

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/women-cheating-men-study/story?id=13885519
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/200910/marital-infidelity-how-common-is-it
http://www.patheos.com/blogs/blackwhiteandgray/2012/10/the-closing-gender-gap-in-infidelity/
http://www.businessweek.com/news/2013-07-01/cheating-wives-narrowed-infidelity-gap-over-two-decades
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