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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I were taking an evening walk last night and he very randomly and casually said something along the lines of how he doesn't think humans were designed to be monogamous because he sees a hot chick thinks about hooking up but wouldn't because he loves me and wouldn't want anything to happen to me. But the desire for something "different" or "strange" is still there. He then said he thinks it's God testing our faith/vows. I dunno about the last part but the first makes me nervous! Maybe he just felt comfortable being open with me...we have been married 4 years and he is 15 years my senior for background. [/quote]

He might be looking to trade you in for a younger model. Or maybe he didn't realize he would come off sounding that way.
It would be interesting if you said something similar about a handsome man you saw (MUCH younger than hubby.) But be careful. It might hurt his ego and he decides to pursue another woman.

Mine knows that if the trust is gone, the marriage is over. So he doesn't do anything to make me doubt him. I treat him with the same respect.

I've heard that argument before, but then why would a woman even bother to be monogamous? Why not find he best stud, have sex to get pregnant (since that's what nature intended), and dump him? Then all the "studs" would pass on their genes and "less fit" men would never reproduce. Eventually only the "best" men and women would be on the planet. This doesn't happen.

So why do women choose to stay with "less fit" men and reproduce with them? Because they will stick around to take care of the child, ensuring its survival. So the genes are passed on. So the "less fit" man has passed on his genes. Be definition, that makes him "fit." The term "survival of the fittest" means that those who are equipped to survive and pass on their genes will do so. (These are examples of successful organisms.) Those who are not (fit), die without passing on their genes. Being fit doesn't mean having a great body. You can have a great body and be dumb as a rock and get killed early in life. Bill Gates isn't sexy to me, but he's very smart and made billions. That makes him a success. His wife certainly thinks he was attractive enough to reproduce with him.

People are wired differently. Some are monogamous and some are not. Some are hetero, some are not. People need to be honest with each other and be true to themselves. If he's not the monogamous type and you are, then your marriage won't work. If you are both the same, then it will work (barring other issues.)[/quote]

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