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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Asian poster here:

This is why Asian parents are in trepidation about their children marrying outside of the culture.

We would never insist on our in-laws or parents staying in a hotel. We'd just accommodate everyone because they are family. I'd certainly not use double standards when it comes to my parent staying with us as opposed to my in-laws.

Not intended to be a value judgement as much as an explanation of a glaring cultural difference. In fact, for most Asian parents if one were to tell them to stay in a hotel, they would not even come. I know that is how my parents would react.[/quote]

Are your parents good house guests? Do you have enough space for them to have their own room? Are those things taken into consideration, or is the culture more like, "You're parents, you'll stay with us no matter the circumstances?"

Just curious. My family is from Poland, and I grew up there under Communism in a teeny tiny apartment. When I was growing up, family would come visit and the place would be bursting at the seams to accommodate everyone, and it created tension. You wanted to be hospitable, but it was just so cramped.

I don't mind family staying now that we have a big house, but when I had my first apartment in DC, I told everyone that they could only stay a couple nights if they came to visit. It was hard to my parents to understand, and they were probably hurt. Now that there's more space, they're welcome whenever.

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