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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it was probably unreasonable to leave three small kids, one being a baby, with an elderly couple for an entire week.

They were probably overwhelmed, tired, exhausted, frustrated.  Having said that, they should get over it.

Did it not occur to you that it might be too much for them?  Also, what is your husband's take on this since it's his father.[/quote]

They arent elderly - they are 62 and 51.

DH is upset too, but he is more inclined to fight back to show how we did make it easy and did warn them about accidents, etc while I am trying to figure out the best approach to move forward. I dont care about being right, I just want to have a good relationship.[/quote]

I don't understand why you didn't just make your kids wear pull-ups to bed instead of "warning" them about the accidents. They probably didn't take your warnings that seriously and things spiraled out of control from there.

I don't agree with their attitude toward it since they did accept the responsibility, but don't fight back - that's just creating more unnecessary drama. Bottom line, they did you a favor and it sounds like a misunderstanding, so no need to prove anyone was right or wrong. They're probably just tired and cranky, as others have said, and they'll eventually get over it.[/quote]

I agree with no fighting back - its why DH is going to keep his mouth shut when we sit down with them.

We dont put them in pull-ups bc if we take them to the bathroom at 10pm (which we instructed FIL to do and which he has done many times while babysitting), they dont have accidents 90% of the time. They have been out of pull-ups for 1-2 years but we continue this "sleep pee" until we know they can wake up dry.  In a diff environment, I guess it was just a fluke that they had a couple accidents. Maybe they had too much to drink before bed? I have no ides why it happened but we warned them it could happen and gave them plastic sheets just in case.[/quote]

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