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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This might sound weird, but my DH is suddenly overly affectionate and lovey. I find it weird.  He's never been like that before and after 9 years of marriage, and I haven't complained about a lack of affection or sex, it's suddenly like he's all into being lovey-dovey. Also suddenly complaining about our sex life, though we're fairly medium at twice/week.  Would be more if our schedule allowed and he knows that.   I wish he would go back to doing it once in awhile instead of seeming desperate to send me sexts( which I hate ) and try to grab my butt when I get home from work.  WTF.   [/quote]

Stab in the dark here, but it sounds like he's found Athol Kay's Married Man Sex Life Primer. Sexts and drive by groping are suggestions there. A lot of men find their way to that resource because they don't feel loved, and they don't feel loved because their wives don't understand that sex is how a lot of men experience love from their wives. (In other words, it's not merely a physical need as a lot of wives seem to assume for some reason.) Anyway, MMSL recommends dirty texts and drive bys and long kisses during the day as a way of keeping the pump primed -- prompting their wives to regard marriage as a sexual relationship. Without those reminders, the thinking goes, a wife is likely to stay in "mommy" mode or regard her relationship to her husband as more platonic.

Athol's thinking has evolved somewhat in recent years. And a lot of guys seem to jump straight into the sexts and whatnot without first doing some of the harder work of building the underlying attraction that makes those things welcomed by their wives. [/quote]

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