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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If my husband and I were in this situation this would be a decision that both of us would have to fully support in order to say yes.  Here is what I expect we would be wrestling in terms of factors:

- remaining time with child
- drain on family and spouse time
- financial drain, especially at a time when facing college costs for child
- fulfillment of a dream
- the example set by a parent when going back to school can be very powerful
- likelihood of the education paying off significantly (in emotional/financial/career/self-worth measures)
- level of want versus need involved in the desire to pursue the degree
- cost/benefit analysis for the family, marriage and other relationships that might be impacted by one person undertaking something like this.

To be honest, it would be a pretty tough sell in our house.  I would love to go back to graduate school (and I too feel a bit of the "something to prove" issue) but it would do significantly more harm that good to my marriage and my relationship with my kids.  So it would be a non-starter for us.  If my husband wanted to do it and I sensed on some level that it was as much [b]out of personal vanity, or if I felt that it was a pipe dream pursuit in terms of entrepreneurial opportunities, then I'd be opposed[/b].

I'm not saying that's what's going on w/ you and this program, but those would be among my concerns.[/quote]

Honey, is that you?  [b]My children actually saw me go back to get my professional license and were proud of their dad.[/b]  I just want to do something different, get the "chip off my shoulder about non-prestigious" undergrad, plug into a new network, and learn more about another area so that I can meet up with people who also want to start companies as well as the venture capital people who are interested in graduates of this program,.[/quote]

That's what I was thinking, that your kid watching you do this program, study and put in the time and work involved would give them a glimpse of what college will be like and what their work and study habits need to be in order to succeed.  Not to mention seeing you excited about a career, seeing the networking that is involved.  I wish I had grown up watching someone do networking!  As a concept it is still mystifying to me and I'm almost 40.

If you can swing it financially I would say go for it.  Prestigious schools matter on a resume, at least in my field.  I've known people who did not get jobs simply because they did not go to the right law school.  My dad started a new business at around this stage in his life and he is doing well and loving it.  Granted, he works every single day of his life, but he likes that and wouldn't be happy otherwise.  Some people aren't meant for retirement :)[/quote]

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