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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, conventional wisdom is that it takes 2-5 years to heal from infidelity, and the duration of the affair would probably put you on the higher end of that range.

BTDT from an EA. It IS possible to reconcile, but I agree that that 100% absolute trust never comes back. I don't actively suspect anything with my DH, and he has done everything to rebuild our marriage. But something in me broke back then, and I am changed. I just accept that, and my DH has also accepted that.

The OW was "fishing." Your DH didn't respond, which is a positive. However, he should have told you immediately that he had gotten that. Put that ground rule in place again. He also needs to understand that this has triggered you, which sets your recovery back a little. You will need reassurance for now.

I highly recommend survivinginfidelity.com for support.[/quote]

OP sure, check out the website above.  But do NOT feel like you're crazy or unfair for TOTALLY freaking out about this.  If your husband has really set up clear boundaries re: this woman, he should have told you about the email or read it and erased it.  And OW claiming she didn't send it...  You are right to be highly suspcious.  You'd also be right to decide, even years later, that 5 yrs is too long to be lied to by a significant other.[/quote]

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