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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I met some Mormon guys at my last job. One thing that was striking was that they were children of, or married to people that had converted and came to this country. One guy was converted in Brazil and was sponsored by Mormon family in Utah to study at BYU. Another one, his mom was Mormon from Brazil. He married a convert from Ireland.

None of their wives worked outside the home. They seem little chauvinistic and would flirt with women at the office. I think one was having an affair. It's like an exclusive club. If you put BYU on your job resume, you will have a good chance of getting an interview. [/quote]

I don't doubt you, but I just wanted to note that this is completely the opposite of every mormon man I've met (which is not tons, but at least a solid handful).  All were really, really nice guys.  Not flirtatious in the least, but still friendly.  Didn't come off as chauvinist, either.   Of course, they very well may have had private beliefs that they just kept to themselves, but I knew several Mormons in law school, and I never a got a "you don't belong here" kind of vibe.  I remember one guy mentioning that his wife considered herself to be a feminist, and he said it without any sort derision (and I think it was in a conversation about how it was possible to hold some values typically thought to be "liberal" in the LDS faith, but I don't recall specifics).

Overall, every Momon I've met has been a very, very nice person.  I'm secularly Christian and very liberal, but I'm also perfectly happy to spend time with people who have different political or religious views, as long as I don't feel like they're pushy about them, or feel judged around them.

DH jokes that the Mormons are going to take over the US with their large families, and because they're such nice people, no one will see it coming.  [/quote]

+1. I met a number of Mormon guys (never women) in law school and in college. All were very nice guys and came across open minded -- I think they had their private views on wife, family, religion etc. but they got that there is a time and place and they didn't seem like they were judging others' life choices. In chatting with them some over the years, I got the view that many LDS (most?) see themselves as ambassadors of their faith. Even if they aren't trying to convert you, it is important for them that you were left with a nice/good image of LDS bc their view is -- if everyone thought LDS people were rude, mean, etc. who would ever consider the faith. I have a feeling there was some of that at play in college and law school -- at the east coast ivy schools, they saw themselves as having a "responsibility" to represent their faith the "right" way to people who maybe had never spent time around any LDS.

That being said almost all went back to Utah or Idaho, started their own businesses, and have little to do with their friends from school. I don't think it's a matter of -- we can't be friends because you aren't living your life in a Godly way -- though who knows. I just think they have a certain view on what is right or wrong and if you don't live that way -- marrying young; lots of kids; church being your primary activity outside of work etc., then they don't have that much of interest/time for you. I have a non-LDS friend who moved to Utah for work and felt the same way. He lived in a development where every home on the cul de sac was LDS and the men (bc my friend is a single man) all stopped by to welcome him, invited him to participate in neighborhood things at first etc. but after a while it became apparent that church was 99% of their life and if he wasn't interesting in learning more about it, they didn't have time to "waste" watching the game with him -- but they were all still nice to him, just not friends.[/quote]

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