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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a private person. The thought of talking to some random stranger does not appeal. Plus, I worry about non-evidenced based counseling practices and worry it will just be too hokey.

At the same time, marriage is pretty miserable. Your garden variety post kids stuff. But I don't see how we repair this gulf between us. I am so angry and sad a lot of the time and basically feel like DH doesn't like me anymore. We fight and there is never any repair.

He'll go to counseling with me, he says. But I just really doubt it will help. I hate the thought of telling our troubles to someone outside the marriage. I hate the thought of bringing someone else into the equation. If we wanted to do things like date nights or a list of things to build intimacy we could. We are not stupid people. People always suggest counseling but I just suspect it would be excruciating and a waste of money. But I don't know what else to do.[/quote]

The tone of your post suggests your marital sex life is probably very lacking.  It's hard to stay mad at each other if you're having frequent good sex.   What does "garden variety post kids stuff" mean?  You're trivializing unspoken problems that are endangering your marriage.  How is that garden variety?

When was the last time you sucked your husband to completion?  I'll bet you do it never/not very often.  You don't need crap like date nights to have a better sex life.

Of course maybe you are one of those resentful wives who's never really liked having sex with her spouse or sees it as just a bothersome burden.  In that case maybe there isn't much left worth saving.[/quote]

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