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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hope everything turned out OK, OP. [/quote]

Thank you for your kind thoughts. We'll see what he does with tomorrow.

Nearly two months ago, I sent my daughter off with him one morning and her hair was just past her shoulders. He returned her with hair that was crazy cut between a half inch and just over an inch. It was agonizing.

He is ENRAGED at my lack of need for him. If I had initiated a call, who knows where the situation would have gone. He is lashing back at the stability. Sure, I said yes when he asked for Saturday time, but then he messed around with letting me know when he'd actually show up. I eventually got a missed call near 11am. Nine o'clock is our usual pick up time.

Each Sunday, I have no idea IF he will pick them up or WHEN. Once they're gone, I have no clue when they'll be returned to me or in what condition.

Coming home at 8:30pm without being fed has happened. Same with no nap at 6:30pm. I just never know when/how/who is showing up on Sundays. Mr. "Reconciliation" or Mr. Warpath.

If I didn't think I'd go to hell for it, I'd turn him in for at least two federal offenses he's committed that I am aware and have proof of. Again, the retribution. And, the guilt of having taken their father away.

And, for those who aren't getting it, time with the babysitter is time that can be accounted for, the children are safe, with a vetted caregiver, and on schedule with their basic needs being met. No so with their father. One never ever knows what happens with him. And, he'll never tell me what they did on visitation day, only that/if they need to be fed or didn't nap, and only if I ask.

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OP, if you and your children are living in fear and he is mistreating him, taking him out of the equation is not going to send you to hell.  Send him to prison or at least use these to make sure he loses custody.  I suspect you don't have enough to convict.  But you need a good lawyer.

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