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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know this is hard, but based on everything you have said, I would confront him IN therapy lay out your concerns clearly. I would not be emotional or over-dramatic about it because I think he will use that as ammunition and it will be a distraction.  I think with the therapist's input you should set up some boundaries/limits.  If he is willing to agree with this and does not continue to lie or hide things I think your marriage could survive.  If he continues to argue semantics and what he wants, then that would be a huge warning sign.

Secondly, take care of yourself.  This is so important. Spend time with your kids one-on-one.  Schedule a day out for just yourself and friends.  DO not contact this lady.  At the end of the day this has NOTHING to do with her.  The responsibility lies fully with your husband, do not turn this into an issue about her you will just complicate things.

Protect your feelings, pull back a little in the relationship- be open to talking and discussing but do not lose hold on your priorities (self-care) and the limits and boundaries that you have agreed on.  If he wants to argue, say your piece and stop.  Say you are open to discussing more in therapy.[/quote]

This is excellent. OP, print this post out and carry it with you. Do what this poster says. When you feel like lashing out or calling the woman, read this. [/quote]

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