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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. 20:26 and 20:33 are insightful. He is kind of a man that would battle me for the girls. He does have a strong emotional connection to them, especially one. To PP, I really appreciate your input criticism and advice. I am a strong person, I am well put together, educated and I am confident I could build a new happy relationship. It is my marriage that I do not want to give up on just yet. I guess I realize now that I was also looking for comments from those who have stayed and ended up working things through. When things are well, I do love spending time with my husband, I do like him, I do care about him. He's always apologized for being mean, etc, and especially when the girls witnessed anything he made sure to let them know he was wrong and that this behavior was not acceptable.

I see that most times he is trying, remembers birthdays, anniversaries etc, helps out, does nice things for me.  It's the times he can't control his impulsiveness and just blurted out in anger making me feel very sad, hurt and disrespected. 
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This doesn't sound like abuse. Abusers never apologize and twist the truth to blame the victim.

Is there something in your past that might make you think that normal arguments are abusive? Have you been to counseling?[/quote]

Have to agree, this doesn't sound like 'abuse.' It sounds like you BOTH have some resentments, and possibly the marriage is over but the kids keep you together.

Resentment will only get worse on both ends if you don't figure out if you can fix it or end it. And to be clear, fixing it can't just be you trying or your husband trying.[/quote]

Buck up, OP. I agree with this. It sounds like you BOTH have a lot of work to do but this is not "abuse," as you describe it. Your feelings may be hurt from time to time, but whose aren't?[/quote]

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