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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A couple years ago, my sibling and their spouse had their first child. I helped out extensively for a super long time. I was basically an unpaid nanny to them for 4 months or so, and sparingly after that. After a while I made my feeling known to them that i began to feel taken advantage of and unappreciated. Their response to that was basically "we disagree. no further discussion needed."

this caused a rift between us. [b]Now they are expecting baby #2 and are turning on the sudden niceness and are using language that they expect me to be hands on deck. [/b]For my part, this will not be the case but I don't know how to respond that both is supportive/excited about child #2, but make it explicitly clear that I will not be there to help, at all. Their response when I told them I felt unappreciated still stings, and their sudden niceness now makes me wary. How would you respond in a supportive yet clear "no" kind of way?[/quote]

How do you equate them suddenly being nice to wanting you to be a babysitter to their second child?  BIG assumption here.  I think if there was tension before, you would NOT be the first person they would go to for babysitting. [/quote]

Not the OP but it's the "using language that they expect me to be hands on deck" that seems to be the answer.
This is really not a useful post.
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