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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]18:09 Does your child have to play the sport? That's driving college? What if DC gets injured?

I cannot believe how high strung some of you sound!

There should be a poster: Stay Calm and Apply On.[/quote]

18:19 here. Yes, my child HAS to play the sport. It's his whole world, and I would not take that from him. If he gets injured, he will get better, and he'll play again. But shutting out the opportunity to play would be devastating to him. I could not do it.

Yes, I'm high strung. Do you have a junior, PP? Do you have the resources to pay for private school without aid? If so, lucky you. Many are not so lucky, and yes this is a terribly stressful time and quite overwhelming to negotiate. We all want the best for our kids, don't we? [/quote]

I don't actually want "the best" for my kid. "Good" is good enough for him and me. I am not willing to spend my child's teen years hounding him nonstop to achieve-achieve-ACHIEVE in order to acquire THE BEST. And even if he were one of those kids who drives himself relentlessly, without any push from me, I am not willing to spend (borrow) the amount of money that "the best" colleges will cost me.

Being upper middle class has its privileges, at least for me. I run the expected financial contribution calculator and the college net price calculators, and they generally spit out a number that is wholly unacceptable to me. They may think we can afford that amount; I don't. Once you realize that you aren't willing/able to pay for HYP, you stop worrying about whether your kid has what it takes to get in.

If you don't have the resources, you don't have the resources. HYP and their ilk give ZERO merit aid. ZERO. There will be no scholarships to "the best" schools that aren't directly related to your family income. If we were relatively poor, I'd be more interested in "the best" for my kid--both because "the best" schools are the most generous with financial aid and because the research shows that attending "the best" colleges makes a difference only for low income students, students of color, and first-generation college students. But for my upper middle income, white child of highly educated parents--research shows that "the best" conveys little benefit.

So breathe easy. All will be well.[/quote]

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