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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, with your update, I would go to him with some deadlines. Basically you can't continue to shoulder being the solo breadwinner + only active parent and you're at the end of your rope. So you need DH to give a little. He has one week to decide whether he's going to work whatever part time work he can find until a longer-term solution comes through OR he's going to commit to being a SAHD and start the transition by being the one to drop the kids off, pick them up, and fix dinner every work day for the next two weeks. He can wean himself off full time childcare over the course of a couple months.

If he chooses the part time route, he needs to sign up with 3 temp agencies that week and reply to at least one consultancy advertisement each week.

I think this is extremely fair. [/quote]

I would add that you need some sort of household duty split while he isn't working but is signing up with temp agencies and what things look like when you are both working full-time.   If he feels he is struggling with his responsibilities (job search, household, child care duties) you can suggest if he can't figure it out on his own within a reasonable amount of time, he seeks professional help to get him there.

Good luck.  On the other side of the fence where I likely have undiagnosed ADD. It is important that DH holds me to certain responsibilities and believe it or not that helps me.  Having to deal with consequences (disappointed children if I don't sign up for XYZ activity on time), knowing I can't be late for pick up, tripping over toys if I don't get the kids to clean up, has forced me to figure out things.  I know if things get to a certain point that I can't uphold my responsibilities, I have to seek help or it would threaten my marriage.  I hate to say it but if I got a pass, I would probably take advantage of it because it is easier for me.[/quote]

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