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[quote=Anonymous]NP here but have also BTDT.  Whatever your DH is doing in the basement is a self-medicating behavior.  It could very well be that he's reviewing spreadsheets but I tend to think it's porn/video games/internet as a PP suggested.  It's also avoidant behavior that allows him to do what he's supposed to around the house/kids.  That needs to change no matter his medication status.

My DH suffers from depression/ADHD and is currently unemployed.  To keep him on track and focused, I provide him a list of things that need to be done - it's pretty detailed because with the ADHD, he will often miss the little things (like give DS his own ADHD medication before he leaves for school).  In the beginning, he also completed an Activity Log.  People like him don't have a good concept of time.  He thought he was just taking 20 minutes to check email and the sports scores.  When he kept the log, he realized it was 2 hours.  He didn't have a good understanding of how he was spending his time and the internet was a major time suck.  He also started setting the timer on his watch so he could pick the kids up on time.

I suggest you have a discussion with him regarding this and come to an agreement and some deadlines.  After putting it into practice, you'll also have a better understanding if his meds are still effective.  Hugs.[/quote]

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