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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find this theory to be true personally. When 
I was working full time, I was often too tired/starved for alone time to want to have sex often. Now that I SAH, I make sure we do it at least twice a week. Partly because I'm less tired/overwhelmed and partly because I realize I am more dependent on DH and want to keep the marriage strong and healthy. Believe me, before you jump down my throat, I realize how retro this sounds. I'm just being brutally honest because this is anonymous.

Anyway, I agree with the PP who said that sometimes you just have to treat it like a chore to check off (if you're usually the uninterested party). If it were totally up to me, we'd probably only have sex a couple times a month. That is enough to satisfy me but it's not for DH. A lot of the respondents to the Times article are criticizing the idea that frequent sex is essential to the health of a marriage. It might not be for some people but I tend to think it is necessary for most men.[/quote]

I think agreeing on sexual frequency that satisfies both is essential to a happy marriage. I am the only one of my close circle of friends who wants sex more than her husband. If I push the issue, and ask for sex more than H is interested, sometimes he'll give in to get me off his back, but he's not enthusiastic and it's not that great. I'd rather wait until he wants it, and take care of my own needs in between. Of course, the problem with that is that I'm vulnerable to an affair, but for some reason H doesn't worry at all about that.[/quote]

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