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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, these may be good friends but they were very insensitive and unkind. This happened to me, too, when I lost weight (and I had only returned to my pre-baby weight - it's not like I had withered away!). A good friend reacted much like your friends did, and it really hurt my feelings. Clearly it brought up their own issues. If they were genuinely concerned about your health and gently making sure you're okay, that's one thing - and would be within the bounds of a good, caring friendship. But insulting your appearance as they did is terribly rude and I highly doubt they were out for your own best interests, even if they truly believe that they were.[/quote]

People say stupid things sometimes. When I was 8 weeks postpartum a lady that I knew at the time looked me up and down, shook her head and commented "If you started smoking again to take that weight off I really couldn't blame you."  Well, hey, nice to see you, too  :x .  Funny thing was - the lady who said this to me was not trying to be mean at all.  This was just her sudden, honest reaction to seeing me for the first time since I had given birth.

When your appearance changes like that, it takes a while for people to get used to it.[/quote]

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