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[quote=Anonymous]I think some women do this if they've always been pretty and nobody ever told them they have other good qualities, or tries to get them to develop other skills/talents or other aspects of personality.

I know a woman who could have written the original post.  She doesn't have many good friends because it becomes completely obvious very quickly that it is all about her and she doesn't really care what is going on with her friends.  If someone is having a real problem they want to talk about, she'll quickly change the subject to her latest date.  She's obsessed with looks and thinness and you never see her without full hair/makeup/fancy clothes, even in casual settings.  She can't have a conversation that isn't about dating or men.  She can't go 5 minutes at a bar without trying to flirt with someone, even when she is actively seeing someone nice.  She flirts with men that other women are interested in and then wonders why other women don't trust her.  She goes out with guys in whom she has no interest because it's better than not having a date.  She has guys from her past that she can't seem to get over, and obsesses about them, even though she has other opportunities with better guys.  And she is basically showing her two daughters by example how to grow up to be vain, vacuous, shallow women who value nothing but looks and attention from men.

The way I've dealt with some of this is to say, "hey, we can talk about boys for the first 15 minutes tonight.  Then we need to talk about other things."  (we're both way too old for teenage conversations.)   And honestly, I don't spend much time with her anymore, because she bores me.  Also, as a single woman, it is discouraging to go out with someone who always has to have to focus on herself - that kind of behavior makes for a terrible wingman.  I have never - not once - met a guy while out with her, and can't say the same thing about any of my other female friends.[/quote]

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