Reply to Why do I need everyone to love me?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Why do I need everyone to love me?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents are divorced, dad left.  Is that it, end of story, forever?  Not everyone whose parents got divorced ends up this way.[/quote]

No, but I think there are a few things at play that can influence the outcome.  One is even when parents divorce, the daughter can still have a strong relationship with the dad.  Or if the parents divorced late in the game, the daughter may have had good memories/relationship to fall back on.  I think in absence of those things, self awareness, possibly therapy, and the role model your mom provided in terms of relationships can all play a role.  My mom is beautiful, is smart, and never gave the impressions she needed male attention and most definitely never at the expense of being treated well. I think she , for better and worse, helped to shape some of my thoughts on dating.

I have not been to therapy, but one thing that I think helped back then (high school and college) was keeping a journal.  I just recently found it and some of it is actually funny.  I realize that I had a boy crazy part of me but my sense of pride/self worth helped me keep a line I wouldn't cross though I am sure I came close. I am not sure what you do to win a guy over but when I read over an old journal entry I had written "I need to know that he sees something in me, not that he is giving in. Wearing him down is not an option, my ego couldn't take it ..."  You definitely don't want to be like Effie in Dreamgirls singing "And I am Telling You, Im Not Going"[/quote]

This is the op - I have journals from my teenage years too and it is all about boys!  Just non-stop.  It makes me sad because I feel like I should have been focused on school and my future.  Oh well.  But yes, a journal now is a good idea.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics