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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What if your kid questions another adult about something they should be respectful about though?

Adult:  Jennifer, show June where to hang up her coat and put her shoes.
June:  At my house we just hang out coats over the railing so that's where I put mine.
Adult:  June, at our house coats go in the closet.  Please take your coat and follow Jennifer.  She will show you where to hang it up.
June:  Why?  It's just fine where it is.
Adult:  June, I did not ask your opinion about whether your coat goes in the closet or not.  Our house rules are that coats go in the closet.  Please go with Jennifer and hang up your coat.
June:  I still don't understand why I have to.  My coat is not bothering anyone and when I leave I have to go get it back out again.

If I am the Adult and June is my kid's friend, guess who won't be invited back.  My kid is older than 6 and I have seen a lot of Junes.  I totally understand allowing your kid to push boundaries at home, but requiring children to follow rules and respect authority does not equal "blind obedience."

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I agree.  I just do it with much simpler language.

"That's the rule in our house.  Please go hang up your coat."

If he or she argues, I just repeat, "That's the rule here."

No further explanation or justification for guests who try to ignore or argue with me about our house rules.

This is my approach for all sorts of unwanted behavior we see when friends come over:

"That's the rule in our house.  Please stop jumping on the furniture."

"That's the rule in our house.  Please stop throwing toys down the stairs."

"That's the rule in our house.  Please bring the food back into the kitchen."

"That's the rule in our house.  Please stop teasing [younger DC]."
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