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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will probably get flamed for this, but... As you get into your late 40s and 50s, it is not that you are too tired, but that the DESIRE to do the whole parenting thing decreases. Car pool, test prep, mommy dramas, birthday parties, sports cheering, saving for college, acquaintances of kid parents, getting up early, Saturdays spent at games, picky eaters, worry about teens sex life, ect that you start to think ... no more. Life is too short. Some people just want a more adult oriented life style. that frankly others are living. The days of travelling in your 30s are long passed by that point. OK vent over.[/quote]

I don't think what you are talking about has to do with age.  In my 20s and 30s, I had little or no desire to deal with all of the things you mention (mommy drama, sports, et cetera).   Now in my late 30s, I actually have enough patience to endure those things anyway.  I think in that regard, I'm more equipped to parent at an older age.

I've actually become less interested in traveling or things of that nature, because as I've gotten older, I've become more of a home body.

So all of that would lead to the conclusion that, in my case, having children older is probably the better option.

But I understand that not everyone is like me.  Some people have different interests in their 20s and 30s.

That's why there's no one way to do it.  There's no perfect age to be a parent.  There are so many variables.

The only difference in starting later is that from a biological perspective, if you have fertility issues, you have less time to sort them out and keep trying.  I know people who had lots of fertility issues in their 20s, so I'm not even convinced that starting younger means conceiving will be easier.  The big difference is that if you start younger, you have more time to keep trying.[/quote]

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