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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with the sentiment that many people have more stable life situations when they are a bit older and that can help ease some stressors associated with parenthood...however, I am in my late 30s and both of my parents (who had me later in life) are already dead and gone...frankly, it's rough, I wouldn't wish it on anyone.[/quote]

This point is made over and over on these threads and it just doesn't make sense to me. For the most part, we're talking about 5-15 year difference in what age people have kids, but people will die at all kinds of ages. My husband's father died at 57; my dad just turned 80. My cousin had kids young, but was diagnosed with MS in his 40s and is headed for a wheelchair in his 50s. Nobody can predict how long they'll live, or how well they'll age.

You said that you're in your late 30s and your parents have already passed away. That is sad, of course, but how much more time do you "gain" by having younger parents? Five years? Ten? People get all up in arms about having kids at 40 vs 35, and seriously, it's not going to make THAT much of a difference on the "grandparent" end.[/quote]

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