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[quote=Anonymous]DH is fine with it and so are his parents (they stay in a hotel when they visit us, too). But I would like to stay in a hotel when visiting my dad and he gets so upset when I mention it. There is a starwood hotel 5 min from his house and we have multiple times said we'd prefer to stay there with our young kids, using the hotel points excuse, the pool excuse, the "better naps" excuse.  But he feels very strongly that he wants his family in the house with him when we visit - he wants the joy of my kids eating breakfast with his grandkids, and of hanging out to talk, watch movies, etc with DH and me after the kids are in bed. His overall point is that we only visit him once a year and he wants to pack as much time in with us as possible, and he (probably rightfully) thinks if we stay in a hotel, we'll wind up getting to his house late each morning and leaving his house early each night. His house is very uncomfortable for us, but I get his point and to all of you who would just tell me to put on big girl pants and book a hotel, I just don't want to disappoint my dad when it is really not a huge deal in the scheme of things.  I would feel differently if there was a health concern at his house, but my issue is that the house is way too cramped, with attendant crazy sleeping arrangements, and it always seems a bit dirty and stale smelling although he makes a point of having the house cleaned before we come since I've complained about it before. I do think it is worth having the convo with your ILs, OP, especially since they may be fine with it as your family has grown, but I am just sharing my story bc lots of posters seem to think it is easy to just book a room and be done with it. [/quote]

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