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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sucks from a kids' perspective. Would you want a job where you travelled constantly and had no home base?

It is an idea promoted by Father's Rights groups [b]to avoid child support.[/b] It is a huge industry now but even a lot of THEIR kids beg for a home base.

The best thing for kids is the same arrangement that was in place prior to the split of the parents and regular time with both. My kids are so angry about it. One says he feels homeless.[/quote]
See, this is something I just don't get.  Kids come with all kinds of expenses, you don't just get a bill by the end of the day (so that you can make an argument that if he spends 50% of his time with Dad, Dad shouldn't pay child support.)  There is one housing bill.  There is one medical insurance bill. One daycare bill.  One activities bill. How does that get reduced? it doesn't, it still needs to be paid in full. So the costs associated with the needs of the child would still need to be split somehow.  What is the basis for this argument?[/quote]

because mom and dad both have to pay housing expenses, and thus it is shared - and each gets to choose how much to spend.

I wanted 50/50 custody of my children because they need to be around me in order to learn things they can't learn from their mother as well as learn things from a male perspective.  and its not about being able to have talks with them, its about consistent frequently modeling more than anything.  every other weekend is not going to make that possible.

sometimes kids need things they dont like.  and eegads, sometimes the kids things the mothers dont like too.

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I have no problem with the 50/50 split and I think kids need both mom and dad in their life.  What I don't understand is how child support gets reduced when the split is 50/50.  Suppose your kids are with you half the time. Presumably, they are in the same preschool every day, it's not like mom pays for one preschool half the month and you pay for a different one, correct? One medical insurance - because it's not like mom pays during the time they are with her and dad during the time they are with him.  So one parent will still need to chip into the monthly costs incurred by the child. I don't see how they can be severed completely with the 50/50 split.[/quote]

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