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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nothing, at 18, the kids are adults.  It should depend on the child's relationship with the parent (s) and their willingness to pay.  Married parents are not required to pay, so divorced should not be either.[/quote]

So if you don't like your kids the don't get to go to college?[/quote]That is how the system is set up.
No kid has the money to pay for it themselves and no law can force a parent to provide beyond the 18 years[/quote]

Everyone's situation is different.  My husband and I were wiling to help pay but on certain conditions - a relationship with him (I didn't care about me) - one visit per year we pay for and weekly phone calls, full disclosure of grades and finances and living situation.  They said no, just send money.  He said no relationship, no money.   Sounded reasonable to me.  They only call for money or gifts now.  When we do send them, never a thank you (we are done as of this year).  When my married parents paid for my college they made it clear good grades, they get copies of grades, they have full financial control (they did pay for everything so it was fine with me), visit them holidays/summers and be reasonable about spending.  Oh, and pick a major that would lead to a career (i.e. no art).  I agreed, followed the "rules and they paid (though some holidays I visited my grandparents instead).[/quote]

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