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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for all of the replies. It's interesting to read about other experiences with similar and opposite situations. To answer PP's question, she's 67. I do think there has to be something generational about it, but that's definitely not all of it. I agree that there is some kind of control thing going on. It's very obvious that she's obsessing over it  -- it's literally the first thing she asks about every time we talk, and she asks dozens of questions every time, and she will come back to the topic repeatedly in the course of a conversation. It's just such a strange thing to obsess over in the course of dozens of other parenting and other decisions DH and I've made, why this one particular thing? I've always offered to let her feed the baby a bottle when she visits and I stay in the same room if I'm nursing DS, so it's clear I'm not taking him away from her. I've sometimes wondered if she thinks it's disgusting. Not just a generational or class thing, but that it's just a disgusting practice in her eyes. If I were ever to call her out or question her on it, she'd never speak to me again, and otherwise she's a good grandmother to our kids and we have a decent enough relationship so it's not worth it to me to say anything.[b] I would just like to know what it is that bothers her so much about it.[/b]
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OP, it's like asking why my 12 year old gets all upset over the silliest thing. Or why a 2 year old is sobbing over a toy being moved 3 inches.  THERE IS NO ANSWER.  You're searching for a rational answer in an irrational situation.  Your MIL is jealous/controlling/ignorant/whatever.  Stop the search and either let it go or let her have it by telling her to bug off. There have been many suggestions here for both approaches. But again, there is no rational answer as to why it bothers her.  She can't tell you, so let it go.[/quote]

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