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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't get all these people defending the MIL. What she did was totally passive aggressive, immature, and unacceptable. Unfortunately, it looks like you're not going to get to spend time with your inlaws at Christmas anymore. For me, smoking is a complete nonstarter -- no way in hell would I allow my children to be exposed to secondhand smoke. Maybe you could try to host on the 23rd or 26th next year if you would like to spend time with them, but that smoky house is a no go. I wouldn't feel the least bit guilty about it -- this is a health issue and a danger to your child. I am fortunate that no one in my family or DH's family smokes.[/quote]

Do you know how to read?

OP had the in-laws to her home on the 24th. The MIL typically hosted this, but because of the smoke-filled home, they accommodated and moved to OP's house. The on the 25th, the in-laws again came to OP's home to accommodate the OP.  What she's upset about is the fact that MIL went ahead and had another dinner back at her smoke-filled townhouse. Somehow OP thought that MIL's longstanding tradition of hosting was going by the wayside. People here do not feel OP has a right to be upset--the in-laws met her requests to have Christmas in a non-smoker's home AND the in-laws got to enjoy Christmas the way they always have. What's the problem?[/quote]

I don't think I read the OP incorrectly unless it was unclear. The way I read it, the in-laws came over to OP's house on Christmas Eve from 1-5 p.m., the MIL hosted her buffet later that same evening, and then cooked Christmas Day dinner the next day so that none of OP's DH's siblings could come to the Christmas dinner she planned even though she had never done one in previous years -- i.e. she did it as a big "fuck you" to OP. I didn't realize that they had come by on Christmas morning as well, but that doesn't change my opinion of the MIL's behavior. Of course, I am highly intolerant of smoking, so that is why I have no sympathy for the MIL's feelings.[/quote]

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