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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To be perfectly honest, my job is stressful and not all that enjoyable. I make ~44k a year. My skills and training would not be easily transferable I don't think. My husband makes a lot more (~250k base with bonuses that can be well over 100% of his base). We have 2 kids with nanny/preschool. Anyway, whenever I complain about some aspect of my job, he tells me to just quit because we don't need my income. Sometimes I am sorely tempted. But when I was growing up, it was pounded into my head that no matter what happens, I need to be able to support myself (and whatever children I had). Never depend on a man, etc. etc. I trust my husband and we have a good marriage. Whenever I get tempted to quit my job though, I google SAHM threads, read the warning stories, and get scared.

Anyway, wwyd? If you were in a job and industry you didn't enjoy.[/quote]

Are you at a private school?  Your salary seems low for an experienced teacher in this area.  Teaching is one profession (of a few) that allows people to re-enter fairly easily.  There are also other places to teach.  Perhaps you need to find a different place of work.

I would have a discussion with your DH to discuss what both of your expectations are if you quit.  How much housework/parenting does your DH do now?  How much do you do?  How will that change if you quit?  How will you handle the finances - does everything go into the same bucket or do you split costs today? If you are truly nervous about a possbile future divorce and being left in the lurch (even though you don't see it on the horizon at all - maybe you saw it happen to your parents, aunt/uncle, friend's parents.....),  I would put the agreement in writing and have it notorized or go as far as having a post-nup.

Open communication is key.[/quote]

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