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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Next time you get the chance, begin interviewing her on the topic.  Act super interested in her answers and follow up with questions that put her on the spot   Such as:
"Did you bf Dh?"
"No, why not? Did your pediatrician back then advise against it?" "Why do you think doctors back then encouraged formula?" 
"Have you seen any of the modern studies on bf?" 
"Dh wants me to bf.  Do you think he's wrong?" 
"So do you think bf means a baby isnt getting enough to eat? Do you think it is that way for all babies or just some?"

My natural instinct is not to let pushy people off the hook.  If she's going to be so insistent I'm going to get right back in her face.  Acting sweet and sincerely curious in her answers and all, but still driving home the point that at the end of the day, (1) she's clueless and (2) she should Myob.  Answer every question with a question - "is that what you would do?" And if you get a one word reply, "Why do you think that's important?"
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Well-intentioned advice, but you'd be wrong to take it. All this would do is give the opening that your MIL seeks. If you don't want her input on breastfeeding or any parenting decision that you and your husband make, then don't invite it. I get the goal behind the PP's advice, but it will not work in terms of shutting down your MIL's behavior. She might actually think you are inviting her to give you her opinion and all of her reasons why she did things a certain way with her own kids.

BTW, OP, I give you huge credit. I've bitten my tongue a lot with my MIL, but I think I might have lost it if I heard her telling my infant anything to the effect of "mommy is starving you." Wow. Just wow. I've nursed all of my kids and my MIL has made a variety of rude comments about it to anyone who will listen. With my first, she resented it that we wouldn't leave the child with her so she could babysit in the first few months when the baby was nursing a lot. Now, with my fourth kid nursing, she constantly makes comments about how my baby appears to be thirsty. Why am I not giving her a sippy cup, etc...? It's obnoxious. My approach is to ignore as much as possible and give yes or no answers to her questions and then quickly shift topics. [/quote]

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