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[quote=Anonymous]In pretty much the same boat - wanted more, not in the cards at first because of finances, then medical. A few things have really helped.  First as pp said letting go of the hope -" when we really said ( via medical procedure) this is it, no more pregnancies, no more maybe, I was able to relax and focus more on life as it is, than as it might be. Also, I focus in sibling-like relationships for my dd. fostering a strong relationship with her cousin whi is an only who lives nearby, my best friend's dd only who lives blocks away.  I know play dates don't take the place of having more children, but having close friends who she sees often, has sleep overs with, etc. really helps lessen the guilt that I am somehow depriving her of something. I also talk to my adult friends who are only kids. Their perspective (most LOVEd it as kids, are more challenged dealing with aging parents on theier own as adults) really has made me feel more prepared and ok with the decision.

My aha though was when my 4 yr. old looked at me and dh one night at dinner after a discussion of her classmates new sister and said "this is OUR family, right."  Right, I said bracing for inevitable request for a baby sister or brother. She says "I love our family".  At that point, i just was able to really say "me too" and mean it. [/quote]

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