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[quote=Anonymous]21:42 thanks for putting it so aptly--letting go of the hope, or the possibility, is the hardest part. I also had health issues that made IVF not desirable and after 3 m/cs I was just through. Age, health and other constraints are now finally putting me in the place where I mostly have given up, but I amaze myself that at 43 I still have a tiny gasp of hope every month, which is of course crushed when I get my period.

Our hearts and minds want to hope but sometimes continuing to push and try can really prolong the agony and prevent us from really embracing the child we have. For years I have caught myself thinking about the phantom other child(ren) and what would have or could have been. since i'm finally getting too old to have kids i'm starting to let go, but i fervently wish i could have let go earlier and just enjoyed the family i have more.

and to add to what a PP said, I finally just started saying, point blank to people "we wanted to have more, but it wasn't in the cards for us." or even they (really annoyingly) would do the "you just need to stop trying and relax and have lots of sex" thing. I firmly said "been there, done that. didn't work for us, unfortunately, so we're moving on."

good luck, OP, I feel your grief. [/quote]

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