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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The short term external validation and excitement would quickly fade after you cheated, and then what? Take care of yourself, pamper yourself, feel good about you, be romantic with your husband. Be proud of who you are, and don't mistake some random guy possibly wanting to hit it and quit it as something cool and positive. Most humans would bang most other humans, it's not special.[/quote]

Best advice yet on DCUM!  Kudos![/quote]

Thanks, I hope to be helpful. :) In a more immature time (bf, not husband) I had a similar dilemma, and chose not to cheat. Cheating is usually a very ineffective band-aid for something deeper. I'm glad I arrived at the right decision, and decided to look within for the reasons I was feeling like that. I hope OP does, too. As a side note, with the benefit of time, I can see that the guy I had a crush on would be totally wrong for me and has huge problems anyway, and my issues would have remained constant.[/quote]

+1! Exactly! We all come across feelings like this, but the point is to look past the initial excitement and see everything and everybody clearly. What seems urgent is actually fleeting, but cheating would trip the whole family up, lead to chaos and possibly divorce. For what? A temporary fix with an equally (possibly more deeply) flawed person who has no commitment to OP -- all in betrayal of DH. Worst case scenario? Affair discovered leads to divorce and family breakup, all because of a lack of impulse control.[/quote]

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