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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, some of the latest responses are applicable for shy folks and not introverts. As one of the PPs responded, shy and introvert are two different things. I am not shy. My management job requires me to be talking the entire day, many times to complete strangers. I do small talk with strangers/neighbors on the street and school. And I can haul myself to a party, put a smile on my face and go on talking to random people for hours. I have done this multiple times before on various meetup groups/work parties/block parties etc.

The only problem is that it is not my idea of quality time, I do not enjoy it greatly and if given a choice I would not attend the random party voluntarily. I think it is more trouble/nuisance than it is worth.

The only reason I said I am looking for an introvert is because they will most likely have the time/energy/willingness for more private, quiet and low key activities, but I do agree it also depends to a large extent on how well you click and the mutual interests shared.[/quote]

I'm the PP who said shy and introverted are different, and I agree.

I do also think that there are things that are difficult for introverts and extroverts to get about each other.  In the past, when I've had friends who are extraverts, I always got the feeling they felt sorry for me because I didn't go "out" as much, and they were always trying to get me to do things.  They assumed I didn't go out because I was shy or self-conscious, and they just could not comprehend that I just don't enjoy the same type of activity that they enjoy.  So then I felt like I had to prove to them that I'm not a social idiot and can function at parties or events, and I'd agree to go to things I really didn't enjoy.  It got tiresome.

I've also had experiences where people say they are introverts, but they are really extraverts who *are* self-conscious.  They want to go out.  They want to go to parties, bars, clubs, events.  They want to host parties and entertain.  But they feel anxiety about it.  That's a different animal.  And those people aren't necessarily a good match for introverts either, because there is a sense that they are settling -- that they would always much rather be doing something else, but they feel they can't, so they'll do the low-key things.  [/quote]

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