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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Before.[/quote]

I'd be lying if I said I was shocked. You sat in a car with someone crying because Disney was closed and you went on to marry her. Did you think she would change?  I can only imagine what a joy she must have been as your wedding day drew closer. [/quote]

I'd bet he was terrified of what would happen if he backed out of the wedding.  The wife sounds like she gets emotionally dysregulated.  He's getting embarrassed - regularly - because he knows her behaviour is out of whack for the level of stimulation.

[quote=Anonymous]If you have kids, I hope you can figure out how to work through this. Perhaps a good therapist can help you share what you need from wife and help you reconnect with her. No one should feel embarrassed by their spouse like that.  [/quote]

OP - please consider just getting out; short of that, please do see a therapist.  You probably can't get her to go in - that would require some acknowledgement on her part there is an issue, and that's probably something she can't do - but at least get in to one by yourself for your own mental health, happiness and well-being.  Please, whatever you do, do not have children.

There was a PP who said you were reacting like this is some kind of reflection on you when you could just walk away; she's wrong - people see you as a couple and your wife's behavior will reflect somewhat on you, especially since she will doubtless goad you into taking her side and backing her up in the fight.  But that poster was half-right - you can just walk away - not just from the immediate scene, but from the whole deal.  Dude, I've BTDT, and I cannot tell you how much better I felt.  Please read "The Gift of Fear".  If she's not manipulating and emotionally abusing you using the constant threat of a scene, and you really love her, maybe you can help her (by being supportive while a counselor/therapist helps her), but you can't help her until you are safe yourself.  It's like they taught us in lifesaving classes - you have to make sure the drowning person doesn't drown you too.  Seriously, this is not hyperbole.  Good luck.

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