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[quote=Anonymous]I've seen similar situations with women I know who stay virgins longer than most - it becomes a bigger deal than it would have been had you lost it earlier, so then you can get in your head and overthink it and let the paralysis take over.  Yes, sex should be serious and important and with someone you love, and yes, if you have sex with someone, there is the risk you might fall in love with him and then open yourself up to getting hurt and maybe dumped.  But you have to tell yourself that wouldn't be the end of the world, that you wouldn't be unclean or a bad person or immoral.  Most of us have been through that at some point.

It's also hard not to overthink male-female love/sex relationships if you don't relate to men well as friends/companions.  Again, you can get in your head too much and keep yourself from acting if it doesn't feel natural to you.

I'm not saying you have to go out there and be slutty or have sex, but suggesting reasons why you might be feeling what you're feeling.

For me, it's kind of like diving off the high dive.  When I was in high school, every year I'd spend the whole summer wanting to dive off, but being too scared to do it.  And every year, near the end of the summer, I'd manage it, and dive all day long, and feel awesome.  And then the next summer, I'd be staring at the board again, thinking it's too high and scary, and I'd be paralyzed into inaction again.  (ok, silly metaphor, but i feel like it applies.)[/quote]

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