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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I only have sympathy for you if you literally cannot afford to pay your bills every month with the current set-up.
[b]This is because having a baby changes a woman's priorities and it would be wrong to hold her to old agreements or begrudge her if she is happier staying at home.[/b]

DH was perfectly fine with me staying home, and after trying it, we both realized that I was far less stressed (I used to have regular panic attacks at my old workplace, pretty stressful job). Note that we made it work on 60K with DC1, and now with 92K with DC2. I scrimp and save and budget. We are happy. I also know that the job market is AWFUL for returning mothers, and my Master's is not worth anything without fresh work experience. Finding a reasonably paying job will be HARD for your wife.

That being said, if she's at home and you are in financially tight, there is no need for either a babysitter or a maid!!! The SAH bargain is childcare and clean house with meals instead of working. Of course you should absolutely help out too, like cleaning the gutters or mowing the lawn or taking out the trash, or ironing your shirts.

Start by opening the lines of communications. Good luck.[/quote]

Bullshit. Why should the woman's happiness come at the expense of her husband? He's clearly unhappy about her reneging.

OP, I think your plan is a good one. You chose a lifestyle with certain financial expectations. Those expectations won't be realized, largely due to your wife's decisions. So, you adjust your lifestyle.

Warning, however, about demands to come: Eventually she will want to be in a bigger house with a better school system, or whatever. But she won't be willing to contribute financially for it. That will cause strife in your life down the road.

Signed, Been There, Doing That.[/quote]

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