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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, if she found FT work would she be earning enough to pay for the childcare? It not, there is no point at all in pushing her to.[/quote]

Why would you only count childcare expenses against her salary?[/quote]

Exactly.  It's so short sighted to discount benefits....retirement, health care, potential bonuses, not to mention higher future earnings potential.  If she actually committed to a career her earnings would ostensibly go up over time.[/quote]

It is sexist and simplistic to count childcare expenses against one (mom's) income.[/quote]

As a female feminist, I can tell you this is not sexist.  But if her new salary won't cover the childcare, then they can't afford for her to go back to work.  It's just math.  It's not that her salary is for covering for childcare just by itself.  But really if her salary would be less, then it's not worth it.

OP, I agree that you need to have that discussion now.  It is reasonable to downsize and try to make it in a smaller home.  And have the conversation that when the kids are in school, she goes back.  [/quote]

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