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[quote=Anonymous]My DH is pretty much a disaster in certain areas: speeding/parking tickets, keeping track of finances, losing stuff (just lost another credit card), etc. It drives me CRAZY, yes. and perhaps I married for similar reasons too--to be the 'saviour' figure and to ensure that DH would always need me more than i need him. And in a way, its true, I'm more self-sufficient and capable of complex organizational stuff and handlign family things and multitasking. But DH has all these qualities I lack and that complement my strengths and weaknesses: he can make decisions and take charge in emergencies, he sticks up for me and our family, he will do pretty much anything for me or the kids (kid needs some tylenol? I need a ride to the airport at 5 am? I need that dry cleaning tonight? he will do it, uncomplainingly.). Plus he's smart, funny and loving. Because he has a lot of organizational challenges and flaws, and has grown up knowing that he 'fucks up' alot, he can get quite defensive--but at the same time, he is also very, very very accepting of my flaws. He almost never criticizes me, and I'm no saint. Neither are you OP--your husband         has some weaknesses in areas that are your strenghts. But what about the reverse? Perhaps he is more loving, giving, attentive, accepting than you? [/quote]

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