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[quote=Anonymous]This could be written by my DW....so I will defend my self:

1)small children & routines.  I am a DH, and did not understand it why DD was small....you see, I was almost never given the chance to supervise DD alone.  D?W was a SAM...I worked 10 hrs per day + 2 commuting.  I would see DD for maybe one hour per day.  On weekends, I would be told to take care of DD, and I did.  But I did not know the schedule....sometimes things were great, sometimes horrible.  11 years later, DD & I have a great relationship.

2)  Taking care of myself.  I did not eat well.  True.  And, at 50, I have had angioplasty.  And (for no apparent reason) I have cancer.  That has cost us a lot of money.  tens of thousands of dollars.  But, we have good health insurance -- provided by me.  And At its worst (this year) health bills were less than 5% of HHI.

3) Losing things...Yes I have lost my wallet...usually when I am harried.  Usually on travel.  I dealt with it -- did not bother you.  (try renting a car with a lost wallet).

4) Health again....I used to think I was better at things then I was.  But, when I knew things were bad, you lovely wife, were the only one that did not notice I was in trouble.  And by bad, I mean severe Angina while on vacation.  When I said I think I need to go to the hospital, I was told I am being dramatic, and not to ruin the vacation.  I waited until we got home, and (during the angioplasty), found out I nearly complete blockage of the Left Anterior Descending Artery:  the widowmaker.

I am still here.  You are upstairs sleeping, while I get ready to go to work -- I am in moderate to severe pain from the surgeries for the cancer.  But I am going to work.  You are complaining because I did not plan anything for the two week vacation.

Meanwhile, I came back from a business trip (hard these days), and found the same dishes in the sink from the dinner I cooked before I left, only the dishes were green and fuzzy.

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