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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my growing up family, the person who hosted would do all of the dishes.  No help from anyone at all.  Ever.  It was considered offensive to offer - like you thought the host could not manage to actually host the event.  In my house, I appreciate the offers of help, but I always decline them.  My mother never once offered to help, which is no surprise given her view on hosting.  When we visit my MIL, I do all of the clean up - she is getting to be elderly and I am really appreciative that she cooks for my kids - they love her food.  But, I don't want her to have to shoulder the burden of cleaning up.  When we visit others, I help my kids offer to help in meaningful ways and I assist/supervise them.  I think the way my family did things is normal for a certain set of people, but universally, I think most guests offer to help.  [/quote]

My family - both sides - operated this way, too!  It's taken me a while to get the hang of 'group cooking' and 'group cleaning up' but I try to do that at my in-laws homes and beg people out of my kitchen at mine![/quote]

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