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[quote=Anonymous]From the evidence provided so far, we lack any ability to draw any conclusions about fault or what is driving DW to her affair.[/quote]

This PP, however, is guilty of blaming the victim. In fact, Poe's Law leads me to wonder if this is some sort of joke. [/quote]

Not blaming him, and, at this point, not blaming her for the condition of the marriage. Yes, assuming she is having an affair, she made the choice to have the affair. He may be a model husband, and she is just a faithless bitch who's unwilling to work on the relationship. Or, the situation might be more complicated and he might be partly responsible for the state of the relationship.

However, at this point all we have is the husband's assertion that she is having the affair, and we have nothing from the OP to indicate why this might be happening.

Just for example, there are numerous threads on this board where husbands and wives complain about lack of sex and feel powerless to change it and contemplate having an affair. There are other threads where spouses of both genders complain about other aspects of their relationship, but feel that they can't get out of the marriage.

We just don't know what's going on in this relationship, and so any rush to judgment of "fault" for the state of the relationship is premature because we don't have the information and we only have the perspective of one aggrieved spouse.

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You are blaming him. The affair is her fault. That fact that you don't think you can draw any conclusions about fault is ludicrous. You can. She had the affair - that is her fault.[/quote]

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