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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When you say he can be a "jerk", what do you mean, exactly? That's can't be excused away, period.[/quote]

Not in a disrespectful-towards-women way or anything. Just sort of argumentative, brash, condescending in an argument, hits below the belt in an argument occasionally, etc. And very arrogant, though I think that is a way of covering up his insecurities. I just have never met a guy with this combination of traits (mentioned just now) + the cockiness and impatience with feelings and stuff that he seems to show.[/quote]

What you describe here would be a deal-breaker for me.  I am in a marriage for the long haul.  That will include the good and the bad.  You don't want a guy that starts off like this.  Wow. Arrogant? Hits below the belt? condescending?  Geez, and you are only just started dating?  No go.  I would end up divorced so fast from a guy like this.  Red flags all around.  Marriage requires compromise, humbling yourself and deep trust.  Nothing you have said foster this type of relationship. Think a lot a about moving forward with him.

I have now been married 10 years and a TON of my friends who got married around my time are getting divorces now and telling me all sorts of how they say the "signs" their SO were jerks all along, but chose to ignore them.  How their guys were mean or insensitive all along, but they were ga-ga for them (jobs, prestige, money, just not wanting to be single any longer), and got married.   Recipe for divorce.

Heed your sixth sense.  Listen to the little voice in your head/gut.  Run if if tells you to run. [/quote]

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