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[quote=Anonymous]If he's always complaining about how you drive, why isn't he driving?  So that he can have something to complain about?

If I'm driving, I'm driving.  If my spouse doesn't like how I drive, he can drive or he can walk.  He can't bitch about how I drive, because my driving history is squeaky fuckin' clean.  Since he doesn't have a legitimate safety concern to bitch about, he's talking about preferences.  If he'd prefer to drive, he may.  Otherwise, he can STFU.  ;-)  If you have a messed up record of tickets, accidents, damage to your car, etc., I could maybe understand your spouse's concern (especially if money's tight).  But, again, if he's that concerned, he should drive.  If he's just looking for someone to micromanage, you need to inform him that that's not an acceptable way to treat you.

Not saying this is what's going on with your spouse, but when I get stressed, I try to Control All The Things.  It's an anxiety-soothing mechanism, not that it usually works.  Try to get him to talk about what's stressing him out.  Mitigate the stress and he might lighten up enough to enjoy the simple fun of life again.  If not, well, you tried.  You're not responsible for his happiness.

In the interim, set some boundaries re: how you are to be treated (particularly in front of your kids) and enforce them.  Grumps or no, he doesn't get to act like a damn brat.[/quote]

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