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[quote=Anonymous]OP, your children are in school now. Your "childcare is too expensive" excuse is not really valid anymore. There are a lot of people who have to sort out to manage the hours between school getting out and parents getting off work. It's not like you have to reinvent that wheel.

I am all for single income families, where it's truly a partnership. Yours isn't. You are essentially a single parent whose life is funded by someone who participates only minimally in it. Your locks being broken is dangerous - for you, for your kids, for your husband. Not having appliances that work is unacceptable if there is money to fix them. I'm not sure what your husband would do to fix a truly broken washing machine, but I also believe that if you have a joint checking account for household expenses (presumably the mortgage and groceries and utilities come out of that account), I don't see why getting things fixed around the house is not considered a household expense. Pay someone to have these things repaired or replaced, if you are unwilling or unable to do it yourself (personally, I think the "dark entryway" issue is kind of ridiculous - you can't change a lightbulb?). Next time he says "We can't afford it", tell him that you would like to sit down and go over the family's finances. If your family can't afford to replace a broken appliance, I'd be concerned that money is being spent somewhere imprudent, and I'd want to know where that is so that you could cut back on other expenses to fund necessities.  $150k is not a huge annual income for the area, but there is no reason that you shouldn't be able to repair things when they break at that income level.[/quote]

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